nah you don't have to be all that fixated its pretty much the norm for women in general right now thanks to modern feminism. It used to be more women were in debt but the debt was smaller on average than men's to a degree that it wasn't a popular factor in dating, In fact it was completely flipped as to who's debt was the concern.
Now you see women working min wage or on disabilities with around 7figures in debt by the time they're 30. College also is a massive enabler especially if you take a degree with no actual scalable future and have the perceived notion you're supposed to live better than the plumber next door earing 2-3x your annual wage just because you attended what is basically a daycare for most of these future failure degrees like what she has.